Well hello to you my reader chums! When I got into a relationship, one of my biggest priorities was to not lose myself in the relationship and still continue to grow in myself and with my goals. Relationships are meant to help you grow together but still allow you a healthy environment to grow as individuals. 

Whether you're new to a relationship or struggling with working on yourself, here are the 5 ways to work on your self-development in a relationship.

Make time for your hobbies and passions

We all have hobbies and activities which make our hearts soar. This shouldn't stop when you get into a relationship, in fact, it's incredibly important. You shouldn't become your relationship, you should still be an individual, and that means working on your hobbies. Making time for them is all down to you. This could be you allocating time every night, taking a class once a week or scheduling out regular time to pursue hobbies. You need to look at your life schedule and see what works for you, to make you happy and aid your self-development.

Schedule out alone time

I've spoken about the importance of alone time, again and again, however, it's even more crucial when in a relationship. This is because when were in a relationship, we often find ourselves always leaning on our partners, which is okay, but it can also prevent our self-development. If we're constantly leaning on someone to help us flourish, cheer us up and regulate our emotions then we'll never learn to do these things on our own accord. This is why, it's essential to schedule alone time, either to run errands, exercise, do your hobbies or simply be with your thoughts. Having these scheduled moments will provide you with the opportunity to work on yourself and learn to enjoy your own space and time. 

Set personal goals monthly/annually

I'm big on goals, and I love nothing more than mapping out my ambitions for the year ahead and having something to work towards. Whether you're goal orientated or looking to implement that in your life, setting goals can be a real benefit in your self-development journey. I would recommend starting small with actionable timelines and then beginning to set larger goals. By having something to work towards, you will ensure to put the time in place to work on yourself and lead to achieving them.

Practise healthy habits

I preach about healthy habits all the time recently and it's this year that I've really taken healthy habits seriously and implemented them. This includes a solid sleeping routine, exercising and starting the day right every day and ensuring I'm doing what's best for my mental health and well-being. Practising healthy habits can help you have the drive and motivation to reach your goals and work on your self-development. These two ideas really go hand in hand with each other.

Work on your self-love journey

I'm a big advocate for self-love, I talk about it all the time. We all deserve to be the love of our own lives, even when we're in a relationship. We're the only constant in our lives from the minute we're born to when we die, and that's why it's essential to learn to love ourselves. Working on your self-love can help you be a better partner and have a happier relationship overall. It can help you understand your emotions, your wants and needs and how to convey them to your partner. It also can help diminish toxic traits in a relationship.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What else would you add?

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