5 reasons why self-love is important in a relationship

 Well hello to you my reader chums! I'm a huge advocate for self-love as you may know if you've been following my blog for a while. We all deserve to love ourselves and be our own number one fan because each and every one of us is incredible in our own way. It sounds cliche but it's true and that's where self-love comes in to help us feel the love we should for who we are. 

Whether you're new to a relationship or have been in one for a while, here are 5 reasons why self-love is important in a relationship.

5 reasons why self-love is important in a relationship

It helps you not seek validation for love

When you love yourself, the rest of the world becomes a lot brighter as you're not constantly seeking validation from others around you. This is especially true in relationships. They always say you need to love yourself before entering a relationship and I agree to an extent. If you don't love yourself, then when you enter the relationship, you will constantly be asking for love, attention, and validation from them. When really a relationship is there to compliment and support your life, and the love you already have for yourself. Your partner can't give you all the love you seek as you need to find that within yourself. They can help top it up on days when you're not feeling it and support you, but they're not there to be the 'love yourself' remedy.

It helps you feel fulfilled in your own life and goals

Self-love is the key to loving your own life as once you love yourself, you love everything around you. It'll make you feel certain in yourself and what you want out of life, so when you get in a relationship, that'll fit nicely into it, rather than be the whole thing. You walk with a vision of certainty and fulfillment and that radiates around you. Self-love helps you see the appreciation in your life and gives you the boost you need to achieve your goals so really, it's kind of like a hype girl inside of you. And that hype girl wants you to be happy.

You will experience a healthier relationship

When you love yourself, you don't rely on your partner for every single bit of emotional support as you can hold your own and they just compliment it, the way a loving partner should. Loving yourself means emotional intelligence as you know your worth, you know what you deserve and you're going to strive and get it - which in turn, means your relationship will be healthier. You will know how to communicate your needs and expect the same energy back. You'll know how to be open and your authentic self which is the most attractive thing anyone can be.

It teaches you independence and value for yourself

We all deserve to value ourselves highly and think the world of who we are. You owe yourself that. A journey of self-love can aid this valued feeling because you'll learn to accept the bits of you you don't like, have the want to always be a better person, and love everything around you. This value then helps you feel more independent - as you know, this relationship is just a good thing added onto your life rather than your whole life. You can live independently and do your own thing and enjoy the exciting and fun journey that is love together, without thinking if you lose them you'll have nothing left.

It helps you set boundaries and standards

Boundaries are the most important things any of us can have because they help our mental health and wellbeing and know when enough is enough. This becomes more apparent in a relationship because when you know your self-worth and love yourself, you can put the boundaries in place to ensure your feelings are heard and protected, as well as allowing them to understand your triggers too. 

It's never too much to have high standards because if you have high standards of yourself, the same should be reciprocated in a partner and that's how you know you've attracted the right one as they're on your level with everything. Loving yourself will give your the confidence to own those high standards and experience the most loving relationship possible.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What other reasons do you have?

Thank you for reading <3


  1. I totally agree that you need to love yourself before you get into a relationship. All of these points are spot on. Especially the independence, as it can become extremely toxic when your life revolves around them xx

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  2. These are definitely spot on, Della! Self love is absolutely an important type of love xx

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