Well, hello to you, my reader chums! Having good friends is one of life's greatest gifts; however, as I've grown, I've realised what friendship really means, how it changes and truly, who I want in my life.

If you're unsure about friendships in your twenties or looking to find new friends, here are the friendship lessons I've learned in my twenties.

Life is busy

As I've gotten older, life has grown busier for me and all of my friends. That's normal and okay. I do miss the freedom of my early twenties and how we lived out of each other's pockets and saw each other all the time; however, understanding how busy everyone is is the key to not feeling disappointed and sad. When you do make plans, that feeling is even more magical, and the beauty of the internet is that everyone is always a text away.

You're not always the same level of priority

This was a hard pill to swallow. Just because you rank someone so high in your priority list, it doesn't mean they will do the same with you. Realising that is honestly heartbreaking, especially for really close friends. However, it's just the way life is. That person could have a really stressful job, a family or lots of other friends and commitments. The important thing to remember is they're still your friend, and you need to meet them where they're at.

The right friends will show up when it matters

It feels like you should be texting your friends every day to keep that 'best friend' status, but that's far from the truth. Yes, speaking often is important, however, it doesn't detract from your friendship if you don't speak all the time. The right friends will show you support and be there when it matters, for the good and the bad times. 

Setting expectations is key

This was the biggest pill to swallow for me, as when I was younger, I expected every person to show up for me the same way I did for them. This isn't realistic at all, and you shouldn't put that on the other friend. You need to set expectations with each friendship to meet people for who they are and what they want out of that friendship, as it'll save you from feeling undervalued and disappointed. 

Discuss how you feel  

The only way to solve any bad feelings in a friendship is to talk about them, and how they react tells you exactly what you need to know. Whether it's an issue, you want to spend more time with them or have a boundary to set, discussions with each other are incredibly important. 

You don't need friends who make you feel bad about yourself

I'll say this a million times over. When I was younger, I had friends who didn't make me feel good about myself, and I kept them as I thought I needed to, or this was the norm, however, it's not. You should have people around you who support, love and cherish you. Let go of the friends who don't serve you.

Friendship can last the distance if you work on it

I have a best friend who lives 4,000 miles away. We've been friends since we were teenagers, and when she moved away 7 years ago, it was heartbreaking. However, we've never stopped being close. Even though our friendship looks different, we're always there for each other as much as we can be.

All friendships are different

No friendship is the same. No person is the same. Never compare, just know what is right for you and your friend.

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