Well hello to you my reader chums! Maintaining female friendships can be challenging, especially as you grow older and life paths change. I love my friends and nothing can match the richness and depth of those friendships. Years of watching each other grow, celebrating the big moments, dealing with heartbreak and making memories together that'll last a lifetime.
If you've got some amazing female friendships or have started a new one recently, here are my tips on how to maintain female friendships.
Have check-in points
Life is busy, especially as you get older and everyone is on different paths, whether they move countries, have a baby or get married. Weeks and months can go by fast and before you know it a year has gone and you haven't seen any of your friends in person. To tackle this and due to the power of technology, have check-in points. This could be a weekly phone call or Facetime, a daily voice note or texting memes whenever you feel the need. Each friendship differs from one to the next.
Communicate expectations with each other
We have friendships for different reasons, some we run into with every issue, some we catch up with every few months and some who are like family. Not every friendship can be the same and you shouldn't put the same expectation on each friend nor expect them to act in a certain way. Naturally, your expectations will come clear for each other and if they don't, communicate how you're feeling and how you can both show up for each other in the way that suits you mutually.
Always enter with an open heart
Living with an open mind and heart is the way to enjoy every part of life, including friendships. One of my favourite things about female friendship is the pure love and connection we all have for each other and why an open heart is the best thing you can have. This allows you to appreciate every moment, love hard and enjoy life with each other to the fullest.
Celebrate each other
Life is all about boosting each other up and celebrating each other. I always feel so incredibly empowered by female friendships as they're the biggest cheerleaders. One of the best ways to maintain friendships is to always cheer each other on, even if you don't see them regularly. Whether it's sending them a text, complimenting them on their Instagram post or sending a celebratory card in the post.
Set dates to see each other regularly
It can be hard to stay in touch with female friends, especially if you both have demanding personal lives or you don't live near each other. However, putting dates in the diary regularly can mean seeing each other as much as possible and catching up on each other's life, keeping a meaningful connection alive between you both.
Avoid holding a grudge
I think as women, it's so easy to hold a grudge over the little things or get resentful if you're left out, and your friend doesn't reply or lets you down. But, grudges are not healthy at all and can only turn your friendship toxic. If you are feeling hurt or doubtful about anything, always talk it out with each other as this can prevent grudges or resentment.
Try and be understanding of their thoughts and feelings
Being open to your friend's thoughts and feelings is the best way to create and develop a safe space and talk everything out with each other. Going into any conversation with an understanding mindset can help you deal with any situation or minor argument you've had.
Cherish every memory with your friends
Life is busy and can move so fast that sometimes we forget to cherish the moment when it's there. Whatever you're doing, whether it's a sleepover or going out for brunch, make sure you're present and put your phones away.
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