Reminders to hear on the days you don't feel good enough

 Well hello to you my reader chums! We all have down days, it's only human. We can't love ourselves always or feel on top of the world at every moment, that's not normal and it is okay. I'm the biggest advocate for self-love as I genuinely believe, it's the crux of feeling better about life - once you love yourself, love will radiate around you and you'll gravitate towards things that bring you joy.

Reminders to hear on the days you don't feel good enough

However, as an advocate, I'm also aware that self-love is a journey and it has its ups and downs, and the downs can be as strong as the ups. If you're feeling down or not good enough, then here are the reminders that you need to hear.

It's normal to feel this way

Emotions are normal, feeling down is normal. As humans our thoughts and feelings are like a rollercoaster all of the time, that's how it should be. Some people may be more positive than others, but it doesn't mean they don't also have down days, everyone does. Those with mental health problems, will typically have them more and feel them more but it doesn't make your down day any less validated if you don't have an illness. Our normal emotions are meant to be felt, they're what make us a person and this feeling of not being good enough is natural. It's sucky but it's natural and the thought can only get better.

You are worthy and good enough

When you're feeling like this, negative thoughts are naturally going to multiply as your mindset isn't a happy one, it's the opposite in fact. But this is why when you're having a day when you don't feel good enough, it's the perfect time to practice self-care, self-love, and utilise affirmations as much as possible. You are worthy and you are good enough. These feelings are only temporary and they will pass, and you'll be back to feeling your best self soon - or working towards feeling that way.

People project when they're not happy

This is something I've taken on board a lot lately and it has really helped me on the days I'm feeling down, I'm triggered, or not feeling good enough as a whole. If the reason you're feeling down is that someone has said something mean or hurtful, or invalidated you in some way, it's on them not you. It's nothing to do with what you've done. Hurt people, hurt people and this is the mindset that is important to live by - because once you realise someone's hurtful actions say more about them, than they do you, then you won't question your self-worth so much.

You haven't failed in your healing journey

Healing isn't linear, whether that's a mental health problem, trauma, a breakup, or anything that has caused you hurt. Your healing journey isn't meant to be easy, it's the thing that's going to help you process what has happened and make you stronger. When you're having a down day, not feeling good enough, or have been triggered, this doesn't mean you're a failure, it means you're human. You're still making steps in becoming your healed self, this is just a blip in the road.

Better days are coming

One of the greatest thoughts is knowing you haven't lived some of the best days of your life yet, and that's something I hold onto when I'm feeling down or not good enough. Hard days are part of life and so is feeling this way, but I can assure you, better days are coming. The days where you'll feel so on top of the world that you'll forget of the days you weren't feeling good enough.

There is always hope

Hope is the only thing stronger than fear, and that's something I always hold onto. Fear is an emotion that you can be feeling when you're not good enough as you're scared to be yourself or you're scared of what is to come, and a lot of these down feelings can come back to fear. But hope is so much stronger and there will always be hope, even when times are tough. Hope that things can get better and the best things are to come.

Your emotions are valid

You deserve to feel everything you're feeling. Your emotions are valid, whatever they may be. Often when we feel down or not good enough, we compare ourselves to those around us and think 'I don't deserve to be down as x is going through a worse time' or 'I don't feel good enough because of x y and z.' Whatever the thoughts that link with the emotions you're feeling are completely valid and you're allowed to feel them. Don't let someone tell you that they have it worse or you're being overdramatic because you're not. By feeling them fully, you can then help yourself get better rather than suppressing them as they'll become a bigger issue in the long run.

The right people will stick by you

On the days you're not feeling good enough, reaching out to others is so important for that little boost or some helpful advice. If those others are invalidating what you're saying or making you feel worse then they're not right for you. The right people will stick by you and help you through every type of emotion you're feeling.

This too shall pass

I say this in pretty much all of my posts but this too shall pass. What you're feeling right now is temporary, the feeling will pass soon, I can assure you.

You are uniquely you

And, on the last ad most important note - a good reminder when you're feeling like this is to know, you are uniquely you. There is only one of you for a reason and you deserve to express how you truly are. You may not feel good enough but you are good enough, you are incredible and the world deserves to celebrate you.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What other reminders do you have?

Thank you for reading <3

23 comments

  1. Great post! :D I hate when people invalidate your feelings just because they don't understand or see things differently. I mean it's totally fine for them to not understand etc but that should not invalidate what you are feeling. I'm 50 and still struggling with self-love and thinking I am not good enough. It's such a long arduous journey that can sometimes feel never-ending. x

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  2. Great post! It's always a good idea to have somewhere that you can come when you need an uplifting or comforting word, and I hope your blog is that place for people :) thanks for sharing della x

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  3. Amazing post! I know the majority of us want to stay positive as much as possible but there are days when we get a bit too much lemons. It important to feel negative emotion like crying for an example to express our emotion instead of keeping it within ourself.

    Michelle| www.brokebutflawless.com

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  4. Ruth| Ruthiee loves Glamour12 October 2021 at 10:56

    This is a fantastic post and these are amazing facts to remind ourselves of during bad times. I think telling ourselves that there are better days ahead is such a great one.

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  5. It amazes me that I often come across posts like this just at the right moment -- when I really need to hear these reassurances. I appreciate how encouraging this is -- thank you so much for sharing.

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    1. I'm so happy this post gave you the boost you needed xx

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  6. Your favorite quote always makes me smile when I see it! The love is real.
    This particular post comes across to me as so uplifting and helpful; a reminder that indeed better days are coming and I AM enough.
    Thanks for sharing!

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  7. Fab tips! I think your point about people projecting when they're not happy is super important to remember - I've experienced this a lot in the past week or so and it's really gotten me down but at the end of the day it's their problem, not mine. Thanks for sharing x

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  8. This is a very positive post. The people who matter really do stand by you.

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  9. I needed to read this today. Such useful tips and I will use them as part of my journaling and daily reminders.

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  10. This is all great advice; I've been really needing to hear some of these. I think it's so true that people project when they're unhappy, and it's important to remember we're not responsible for other people's emotions and it's okay to set boundaries :)

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  11. Great advice!

    Sometimes you just need some "you" time to get yourself back to where you need to be. Don't be afraid to take that time.

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  12. This is such a great post, and one to come back to on the days where you are not feeling your best. Great advice!
    Aimsy xoxo
    Aimsy’s Antics

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  13. Great post! During retrograde, I was feeling my lowest and was so many moments where I had imposter syndrome! I just had to keep reminding myself that it will pass <3

    Lynn | https://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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