5 ways to stop caring what people think of you

 Well hello to you my reader chums! One of my favourite quotes I've recently heard was 'the best weight to lose is the weight of other people's opinions on you' as it really echoed some home truths. I can't be alone in saying, I've spent way too long, caring what people around me think, whether that's family, friends, work colleagues, or even people I've never met online.

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It's human nature to care how those around us view who we are, especially if they are people you love or truly admire - as it's only natural to want people to think good of us, whatever the circumstance, as nobody wants to be viewed as a bad human being.

Whether you're struggling with people's opinions of you or comparing yourself to others, here are 5 ways to stop caring what people think of you.

Learn to love yourself

I talk about self-love and self-confidence on my blog a lot because it's something that is incredibly crucial in leading our best lives and being our best selves. It's not an easy route in any sense and took me a long journey to get to a content and a secure feeling in myself, however, it is possible for us all - and is something we should all try to work on.

How you view yourself has a big impact on how you think others view you. Once you create a secure and happy feeling within yourself and a true love for who you are, you'll start to realise you're not bothered by how others perceive you and will begin to live your life for you, rather than those around you. This is why I've always said, once you know your worth, you can conquer the world - this is because, once you realise how truly incredible you are just by being you, you won't let the thoughts or opinions of others stand in your way to achieve what you want to do.

Cut out toxic people from your life

Working on yourself and bettering your life isn't an easy task as there will always be obstacles or people who stand in your way and put you down, and reinforce negative thought patterns. However, this doesn't mean to say you can't do it and live a more positive and happier life - and get rid of those thoughts of how people view you.

One way to do this is to cut out toxic or judgemental people in your life, as they're usually the people you're worried about being your authentic self around. By limiting contact with them, not investing time in them or talking about your inner thoughts with them, will remove those people from your radius and open up more time to invest in those who do matter - and hype you up. It's really important to pick your support system wisely as it has a massive impact on how you view yourself and caring what those people around you think.

When I'm with my friends, I always say to them that the conversation we have is a safe space and there will be no judgment in whatever they tell me as I don't want them to ever feel small in being who they are as they're all incredible humans that I love dearly.

Limit who you tell your personal thoughts to

I'm a very open and honest person and that's something that has grown as I've gotten older, however, it wasn't always a good thing. I would find myself telling personal, inner thoughts to people at the time who I thought I'd trusted and really, those people weren't a safe space to me and the effect it had, made me think they thought badly of me - and had a detrimental effect on my mental health.

My point being, choose wisely about who you have those deep, meaningful conversations with about who you are and your life choices as the right people with support, hype you up and value your honesty - and you won't walk away feeling like they judge you. I'm very lucky to have a group of friends that I know have my back no matter the circumstance and never judge me in what I do or for just being me.

Have an 'I'll do it anyway' attitude

You're always going to have critics in life, that's inevitable, but it's about choosing whether they should take up any thought time in your head - and really, they shouldn't. Everybody has haters, even the most famous celebrities; there will always be someone jealous of you and that's why they act mean towards, it's how they view themselves, playing out on bad words towards you.

Haters will always hate and that's why it's so important to embrace the 'I'll do it anyway' attitude as at the end of the day, it's your life and your choices. You don't want to get to 85 and realise you didn't go somewhere, take a job or do an experience because you were scared of what people thought. You'll regret it - so do it for yourself and forget about everyone else.

Know that everyone is too absorbed in their own lives

This point really helped me in so many ways. Once you start realising how nobody actually cares what you're doing (in the nicest possible way), you'll soon learn not to care what other people think of you. That meeting you were terrified you said the wrong thing? Nobody remembered you messing up more than yourself. That outfit you wore you didn't like? Everybody thought you looked great apart from you. That risky Instagram picture? Nobody thought about the negatives, only your bravery.

Everyone is too absorbed in what they look like, how they act in a meeting, wanting others to like them or view them greatly, that they really don't care about those little things you're overthinking about. Focus on you, your goals, your dreams and learning to love yourself, and I can assure you, you'll live a more peaceful life.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What other tips do you have?

Thank you for reading <3

76 comments

  1. Totally agree with all of these! I am big on making sure I am associated with people who encourage me to be my best. Surround yourself with great minded people :)

    Nancy ✨ mdrnminimalists.com

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  2. Nice post! I agree it is important to shed the weight of other people's opinions and to do so sometimes you need to take a step back from others and think for yourself. In the end, your opinion of yourself is what matters most!

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  3. I agree with all of this, especially cutting out toxic people out your life. When you stop caring about person's opinions, you become happier in life and with yourself. Great post!

    TheQuietGirl
    www.quietgirlblog.com

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  4. I need to hear this today! Thank you for the tips. People most of the time care about themselves and themselves only so there's no point to think what they're thinking about you xx

    lenne | lennezulkiflly.com

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  5. Cutting out the toxic people from my life was life changing. I had to do this in my early twenties and it caused a lot of immediate heart break. However, now I am the happiest I've ever been and I know that it is a direct factor!

    Rosie

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  6. Totally needed to read this! I think that cutting out toxic people is a huge help, it takes time to realise but it can make the biggest difference and to have around trusty people that lift you up and not down! Thank you for sharing x

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  7. I needed to read this today. I’ve cut people out of my life for being toxic and even though it was hard, it helped so much and I’m much happier now. Loved this post!

    Samantha | https://samanthajblogs.co.uk

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  8. Some really great tips. I think especially with being online, we can so often get seriously caught up with what others think. Or might think if we do something. I've definitely fallen into that trap and I'm working on it! x

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  9. Yes! I love this post, and this is really something I'm trying to work on this year. I think sometimes other people make me doubt my decisions or life choices, but ultimately if I'm happy and I have the support of my loved ones I know I'm doing a good job. I'm very lucky to have supportive friends and family, but I definitely need to work on choosing who I have in my life- and who's opinion I care about!

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    1. Thank you so much!! Yes, exactly that - I hope you can begin focusing on you more x

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  10. I agree with what you’ve highlight in this post! I’ve learned to only associate myself with those that bring me joy and remain positive. It’s definitely more challenging during the pandemic. Thanks for sharing.

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  11. That last one is so important! I've started to train myself that 99% of people I 'meet' everyday won't aknowledge me past avoiding me because of covid or counting that I'm one of x people in front of them in a queue! And it's made me so much more comfortable in public!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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    1. Thank you! Wow, this is such a good point, I'm going to try that x

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  12. Cutting out the toxic people in your life, whether that's in real life or on social media, is so important for your mindset!
    I love these other tips about stopping caring about what people think of you! x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

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  13. Interesting post, definitely we have to be ourselves..

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  14. I need this tips so much! I'm always thinking about what people thinks about me, so I need to put these tips into practice. Thank you so much!

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  15. Such a great post. I agree with everything but find it hard to put these thoughts into action. I have always been a people pleaser and worry about what people think. If people don't reply to a text quickly I think I've somehow offended them or worry that I've done something wrong. I constantly overthink my actions and what people think of me it's exhausting. I am trying to put more of these actions in place at the moment! So thankyou for the words of inspiration ❤

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    1. Thank you so much!! I'm exactly the same as you - I hope these tips help!xx

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  16. The thing is, half the term people probably arent even thinking about you- but i know im guilty of caring what people think! I 100% agree that most people are way too absorbed in their own life for them to really care what you're wearing or care about your opinions! Lovely post x

    Ellie // www.thediaryofellie.com

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  17. God I needed this blog post! I think knowing that people don't really care is so important. It sounds savage but nobody's THAT interested in what you're doing haha!

    Katy | www.katystephenson.com | www.thegrownupsclub.com

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  18. These are some great suggestions and it is definitely how we all should live our lives; for ourselves and achieve our goals with the support of loved ones. Thank you for sharing your suggestions.

    Lauren - bournemouthgirl.com

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  19. It is so important, I'm definitely working on making sure I stop caring about what others think!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

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  20. It can be a difficult loop to get out of if we constantly care what people think about us. It can be stifling and counterproductive. Fab post -- very useful!

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  21. Loving the last point here! I have a bad habit of occupying not only my own mind but also trying to figure out what other people think of me. Most of the time, I expect, they are not thinking of me at all!
    Thanks so much for sharing an eye-opening thought.

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  22. What a positive post! I think It's important to listen to other people, but not to take their comments to heart. Learning to love myself is a constant process but I am getting there. I'm slowly starting to not care about what people say. I know what I'm going through and that is what matters. Thank you for sharing lovely!

    Em x

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  23. Great post! The last point you made: 'Know that everyone is too absorbed in their own lives' is so true! I think when I realised that a few years back it really did stop me from caring about what others think. x

    https://www.femaleoriginal.com

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  24. Love this! I think my main problem is that I'm not focused on my own life enough to stop truly caring what others think - this is something I can hopefully work on this year x

    Emily | emiliamarlowe.co.uk

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  25. I agree with so much of this! When I went to uni I culled my friends who I felt like weren't that great for me and just didn't feel as connected with anymore and it made me feel so much better! Definitely think that picking who you are close to and who isn't right for you can make a huge difference in how you feel.

    Tash - A Girl with a View

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    1. Thank you! Yes exactly that, it's so important to pick the right people to surround yourself with x

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  26. It's often really hard to clear out these negative thoughts in your head about what others think of you - in my own personal experiences with my anxieties and low self esteem it's easy to think that other people see you the way you see yourself.

    However these tips lay it out simply and they're all really beneficial! I know from some things you've been saying recently you're really trying to focus on your own self-confidence and loving yourself so this is a really positive way to show it. Lovely post!

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    1. Thank you so much, I appreciate the lovely comment!

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  27. That quote is very true as every word that you wrote. I think that in one moment when you stop think what other people think about you, you can completely change your life and be much more happier.

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  28. Love that quote, I hadn't heard it before, but I'm definitely going to use it! I've been writing a body positivity post, and it's been so interesting when I've looked into this sort of thing!

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  29. These are great tips. I used to worry that people would be judging me when I was at the gym but I soon realised that they were too busy with their own journeys to notice. The feeling when I realised that was great. I'd love to get to that point with other areas of my life too.

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    1. Thank you! Yes, you're so right - it's a brilliant feeling x

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  30. I love this. There is something powerfully refreshing about realising that you're the only one who cares about certain aspects anyone and no one else will even remember. I really resonated with this post - thanks for sharing!

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  31. This is such a great post. I definitely need to work on not caring what people think of me! I also find it really helpful to remember that everyone is too absorbed in their own lives to care what you are doing! x

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  32. I love this post. It is filled with great tips. Recently I have been trying to work on not caring what other people think of me so this post is super helpful!

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  33. Aw, love this post! So true, especially with social media that its easy to get caught up in caring what other people think! I just do what I want when I want Lol Beautiful post Della xx

    www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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  34. I've never been more at peace than when I decided to stop caring what other people thought!

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  35. Cutting out the toxic people in my life has definitely made me care less what people think. Yes, there is a time period where it feels slightly lonely because of the people you aren't speaking to. But it's like, would you rather speak to toxic friends or no friends? Great post x

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  36. As I've gotten older I've realised that it really doesn't matter what people outside your friends and family think about you, if someone wants a reason to dislike you they will find one! Thanks for sharing x

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  37. This is such an amazing post Della and these are great points too. Self love is really crucial. When you love yourself, you won't beat yourself up about what people think about you. When you love yourself, you won't care what anyone thinks about you and the only thing that will matter to you is what you think about yourself.

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  38. These are such great tips. Sometimes I tend to worry about what people think of me so thanks for sharing.

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  39. Thanks for sharing these ideas, I find sometimes sharing to friends that I trust did not solve my problems it made them worse, as they did not have great ideas to move forward than ones I had heard before, so strangers that have an outside prospective helps sometimes :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

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