Well hello to you my reader chums! If you've been reading my blog for a while, you'd know that self-love is my no1 priority and something I talk about a lot as we all deserve to love ourselves and know that we are worthy.
Working on your self-love journey isn't easy, it doesn't happen overnight and it also doesn't have a singular end goal. Over the past year or so, I've really focused on working on being the love of my own life, accepting who I was, and have come leaps and bounds in my journey with self-love. But, that doesn't mean I'm all the way there as I have hard days like everybody else.
Whether you're starting out on your self-love journey or need some tips to boost you along, here are 5 things you can do to help your self-love journey.
Put yourself and your goals first
When it comes to self-love, it needs to be a priority in your life like you should be a priority in your life. Sometimes, life can get busy and we put other people around us before ourselves which can be a good thing if we're helping them but shouldn't be something that happens all the time. It's important to put boundaries in place and ensure you're putting yourself first when needed and your goals.
When you choose yourself, it'll throw you further into your self-love journey. It may sound like an odd phrase, however, if you keep putting other people's needs before your own then you'll never have the time to care for your needs. Once you give yourself the time, you can focus on what goals you're aiming and striving towards, as well as falling in love with exactly who you are.
Realise this journey will have its ups and downs
Being the love of your own life isn't a quick solution or an easy thing, but it is a process we're all capable for. However, your self-love journey will have both its ups and downs. The ups are the amazing part where you'll see all of your progress come into play. The hours of affirmations, mantras, and changing your mindset into accepting the love you deserve for yourself.
But it's important to note that the downs even though may seem like a drawback, aren't a bad thing. In any healing journey, the process isn't linear and there are ups and downs, and it's the same with self-love. When you're having the down days and don't like parts of yourself, accept that it is okay to feel this way. You're okay to feel down and not love yourself, it doesn't mean your journey has come to a halt.
Live your authentic self
We all deserve to live the life we've dreamt about and be our authentic selves. When it comes to your self-love journey, it's hard to fall in love with yourself when you're not living your authentic self. We all go through life seeking our authentic self and wanting to live that way of life, but a lot of the time, we refrain from doing so because of society and those around us, when we shouldn't let other people's opinions affect us.
Once you take the step in living your authentic self, you'll find your self-love journey is easiest to come to terms with. Self-love is about accepting the good parts and the bad parts of yourself, and accepting the more authentic parts of yourself is a lot easier than the false part of yourself.
Get confident in front of the camera
The camera and being in front of it may not be for everyone, but it's a great way to capture memories and look back on photos in years to come. Being confident in yourself comes to play when a camera is in front of you and I've physically seen that as the photos have changed of myself in my twenties. I look happier and confident when I've gotten older and I love that.
To get confident in front of the camera, start by doing fun photoshoots with your pals or taking selfies in front of the mirror. By doing that, you'll know what you're comfortable with in terms of poses and start to feel more confident. And once, you're feeling confident, then you'll fall in love with yourself even more and how you look in photos too.
Talk to yourself like your best friend
This tip is something I say in every self-love post because it's my favourite bit of advice. Talk to yourself like your best friend. Do you put your best friend down? Do you say mean comments to them? No. Then why do you do that to yourself? We're not here for negative self-talk, it's not necessary. You need to speak to yourself with confidence, love, and assurance just like your best pal. This regular self-talk will aid you forward in your self-love journey.
I hope you enjoyed this post. What other tips do you have?
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This was such a lovely post to read. I actually read it once then went to make a cuppa and re-read it slowly to really take it all in. I think talking to yourself like you would your best friend is massive. It's something I'm really working on!
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Thank you so much lovely, I'm really glad you liked it!
DeleteThese are really helpful tips. I go through a lot of ups and downs when it comes to my journey.
ReplyDeleteI love the positivity of this post! You’ve provided some great tips on how to get comfortable in your own skin. I’m definitely not one for getting in front of the camera but I’m working on that. Thanks for sharing.
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DeleteI have to say, what you wrote about living your authentic self really resonated with me as I am exploring what that actually means for me. Thanks for all this information -- being on a self-love journey has been a bit bumpy recently so this was nice and encouraging.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, I'm really glad it resonated with you xx
DeleteAmazing tips! I'm super camera shy but that's definitely something I'm working on. I really need to work on putting myself first, too - sometimes I get too caught up in helping everyone else, which is great, but it's important to take care of myself too. Thank you so much for sharing x
ReplyDeleteThanks so much!! I'm really glad you're working on it x
DeleteWhat a lovely post! It's only very recent that I've become more confident in front of the camera and I think my confidence has definitely grown since I started blogging. These are really great tips for growing your self love x
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DeleteI love these tips Della! It's definitely an important reminder that the self-love journey is up and down x
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DeleteI love your advice on photographs! I truly believe confidence in front of the camera makes for a better picture and a happier memory, so your advice to try selfies or pictures with best friends to help grow confidence is delightful and fun enough to be encouraging!
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DeleteGreat post, Della! Realizing that self love and discovery comes with ups and downs are so important. Thanks for sharing x
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I'm working on being in front of the camera. I always hate photos of myself, especially if other people have taken photos of me but I'm trying to enjoy being in front of the camera now and not be critical of myself.
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I'm really glad to hear about your progress!
DeleteI love this post! I’m trying my hardest to learn self-love and inject it into my everyday lift. It defiantly has its ups and downs but I’m slowly beginning to enjoy talking to myself nicely rather than being my own worst critic. Thank you so much for sharing this lovely Xo
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DeleteSelf-love journey is hard. Most days, it feels easy but some days, no. It really takes practice and consistency to good habits. Thanks for this! It's a great reminder.
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This is a lovely post Della! I love that last point about talking to yourself like you would a friend. You're very right! Thanks for sharing these tips :)
ReplyDeleteGreat tips! I much prefer to be behind the camera though...
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DeleteHonestly, these are great! I think sometimes I struggle with knowing that there will be updls and downs. Sometimes I just feel like the ups are hard to come by!
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful post filled with lots of great reminders - the one that stands out to me most is talking to yourself like your best friend! I don't think I've heard this before and it really is an awesome tip! Thanks for sharing.
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DeleteI loved the last reminder! It has actually helped me so many time - would I want my best friend to be treated like this in a relationship? would I want her to be criticizing her body even though she is perfect in my eyes?
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ReplyDeleteThese are all such great tips! Thanks so much for sharing all this great advice
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DeleteLoved reading this, you look amazing! Some really useful tips there, this whole pandemic has been so helpful in putting me first and showing myself self love and self care x
ReplyDeleteThank you so much lovely xx
DeleteBeing authentic and talking to yourself as if you were your best friend are the two pieces of advice from a former client, a confidence coach, that have stuck with me. I love your point about learning to be confident in front of the camera - I'm not there yet, and even less so since COVID weight gain - but I'm trying! Fab post x
ReplyDeleteI'm glad they have stuck with you! Thanks so much xx
DeleteI totally agree with you, it takes time. Well, I try to put myself and my goals first but also don't forget about other things such my partner :). Great tips!
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DeleteI'm on my self love journey at the moment and this is such a great post filled with fab tips. I really like the idea of getting more comfortable in front of the camera, I've been trying to step out my comfort zone with it latley and although I'm not showing my face, it's baby steps and I'll get there.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much, you'll get there xx
DeleteThese are fabulous tips, Della! I really want to get more comfortable in front cameras because photos are such a great way to preserve memories x
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DeleteAlways love your article about self-love! This is something that everyone has to learn in order to have a positive mindset and improve their self-confidence :) Thank you for sharing, Della x
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DeleteGood article, with life being hectic at time it is often that we tend to forget about looking after ourselves and making yourself a priority. Will try out some of the tips :)
ReplyDeleteYou have done a great job on this article. It’s very readable and highly intelligent. You have even managed to make it understandable and easy to read. You have some real writing talent. Thank you
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I absolutely love these self-love tips! I am with you, self-love is a journey, and I'm still on mine, so these tips will be helpful.
ReplyDeleteRealising your journey has ups and downs is such a good reminder! It can be easy to give up during the downs, but you can learn a lot from those moments.
Thank you for your tips, such as taking selfies in front of the mirror. I'm still working on getting confident in front of the camera. As you say, it is a great way to capture memories, so I need to focus on that.
These are such amazing tips; thank you again for sharing. 😊