5 simple things you can do to boost your confidence

Well hello to you my reader chums! Confidence isn't a quick win, it doesn't spring on you overnight or is something you can buy, it takes time and energy - but is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. We all deserve to feel confident and happy within ourselves as we are good enough and we are worthy.

If you're struggling with your confidence and need a little boost, here are 5 simple things you can do to boost your confidence.

5 simple things you can do to boost your confidence

Don't take advice from people you don't look up to

I've heard many quotes around this idea like 'only take advice from someone that is where you want to go' or 'never take advice from someone you wouldn't trade places with' and it has really stuck with me in a lot of ways. It's really made me take a look at who is around me and realise the people that are boosting me up and supportive, and those that are toxic and not worth my energy. I think it's important for us to all come to this conclusion because they say you're the average of the five people you spend the most amount of time with.

Who you surround yourself with has a huge influence on how you see yourself, how you value yourself, and your aspirations in life as you care about the opinion of those you spend your time with. However, to boost your confidence, it's important to be picky with these people and give your energy to those who are bringing you joy and reciprocating the same friendships energy and love as you are. And, also only take the advice from those with that reciprocated energy. If you're listening to people whose lives you're not looking to have, it's not going to help you grow as a person as they don't have anything you want and it can have a negative effect on your confidence. Listen to those who inspire you and how they got there and use their advice to help you feel more confident.

Learn to find love in everyday 

Gratitude has been one of the biggest things that is not only helping me love myself and appreciating life more but in my confidence also. Self-love and confidence go hand in hand in a lot of ways. When you learn to love every bit of you, you'll begin to feel confident in those parts of yourself and express that confidence in life. One of the ways I've been able to boost mine is finding the love in every day. This could be counting your blessings for the people you have around you, speaking to someone in a shop and wishing them well, or pointing out something that you love about yourself.

By practicing self-love and feeling the love all around, you'll radiate yourself in love and begin to see your confidence increasing day by day.

Do whatever you want to do with your life

It's your life, you deserve to live it how you like. Many of us refrain from being our authentic selves or not going for our goals in fear of what people may think of us. We live in constant fear of rejection and judgement that we don't do the things that make our heart soar, whether that's rocking an outfit or moving abroad. This fear makes many of us not feel confident in who we are because we're constantly scared of what people will say.

But my point to you is, just do it anyway. Life really is too short to care what other people think of you or their opinions to stop you from doing what you like. I can assure you, everyone is so absorbed in their own lives, they really don't think about you and what you're doing in a judgemental way as much as you may think. Live for yourself and the right people will gravitate and support you anyway - you'll feel more confident and the toxic people will phase out.

Stop paying attention to lingering eyes

You're wearing a banging dress and someone looks you up and down or you're laughing so hard in public and those lingering eyes look at you. The lingering eyes from judgemental people which we've all experienced or know. Those lingering eyes aren't important. You may never see those people again. When I see people do that now, I just think 'their loss' or 'it's so sad how they're judging someone else.' Because at the end of the day, judgy people aren't happy about themselves so they project that pain on others by picking at them, laughing at them, or pointing bad things out so they feel better about themselves.

Stop paying attention to the lingering eyes and enjoy what you're doing at the moment. Laugh a little louder, smile a little bigger, and realise you're brilliant in your own way.

Realising you've been put on this planet for a reason

This brings me to my last point: you're here for a reason. This may sound cliche but we are all unique and we were brought onto this earth for a reason and to be who we are authentically. Not everyone is going to change the world and that's okay. But your impact on others is larger than you think. The little bit of kindness you spread today could have saved someone's life, the time you spent with your pal could have made their day and a relationship you had with someone could have impacted them for the better. You bring so much worth to this world and everything around you, and even though you may not see it, others do and that's how you need to think.

You need to flip your mindset to focus on all the good attributes of yourself, what you're proud of and the value you bring to the world around you. I can assure you, you have value, you have worth and you're more amazing than you think you are. These constant affirmations and positive thoughts will help you see yourself as better, fall in love with who you are, and boost your confidence.

I hope you enjoy this post. What other confidence tips do you have?

Thank you for reading <3

24 comments

  1. "Don't take advice from people you don't look up to" Such a true statement. I regret talking and meeting certain people in my life. So many people gave me unsolicited advice and I look back now and realized they had not right to do that. Beware of you gives you advice.

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  2. Beautiful post! So positive. I like your suggestion of doing what you want with your life - I know I held back from some of my dreams because I thought people would think they were dumb. But since I gave that up and started just pursuing my dreams (I quit my job and went back to school, and I started my blog...) I have been so much happier. This is all great advice.

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    1. Thank you so much!! I'm so glad you're happier x

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  3. Such an amazing post, loved it! I suffer with anxiety and self confidence and these are some brilliant tips, thank you x

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  4. We need to live the way make us happy and not what makes other people's happy. I like to dress the way I want. These are very helpful. Thank you for sharing!

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  5. So many great tips in this post! I love the quote "don't take advice from someone you don't look up to" and the fact that you said we have all been put on the planet for a reason. Such positive notes and a great way to boost that confidence!
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  6. Wow, this is an insightful and beautiful post. So true, it is important for us to be aware to whom we spend our time with. They are the people who has great influence to us. We really need to be selective in the respective circles we choose to join.

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  7. What a lovely post! It is so full of positivity and tips on how to live and enjoy your life. Well done Della! Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Beautiful post! I definitely agree with you on the point that we should never take advice from people who we don't look up to. It is usually those people who arvice you to settle with less, that what you want is not the right thing for you etc. Loved this post! Great job!

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  9. Fab tips! I've always struggled with my confidence but it's really hit a low recently. Your point about not taking advice from people we don't look up to couldn't have come at a better time - someone said some awful things about me the other day and it really upset me but then I realised I shouldn't base my worth on what they were saying about me, particularly when they're not particularly important to me. Thanks for sharing some lovely advice x

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    1. Thank you! I'm so glad my tips helped you in some way x

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  10. I love that last point you made, it's just so profound and so true! x

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  11. My favorite is: don't take advice from people you don't look up to. That's something I heard once before and it always stuck with me. The other one is, "Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from". Thanks for the encouragement!

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  12. YES YES YES! I love this so much - especially the tip about lingering eyes. I used to be so concerned about what people would think of me in public, but nobody actually cares anyway! x

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  13. Oh man, I love this! I am very confident in who I am and what I do but I get waves of doubt like any human does! Not taking advice from people you don't look up to is excellent advice!! Thanks for sharing, Della x

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