Well hello to you my reader chums This year, it's all about protecting our energy, putting ourselves first and what feels right for our minds. I've spent many years of my twenties people pleasuring, putting people's needs before my own and going along with things to suit other people, not myself.

I'm not saying I'm overdoing any of those things as this is a work in process, yet I am focusing on protecting my energy and leaning into what feels right for me. Do you want to do the same? Here are a few ways how to protect your energy and prioritise yourself. 

Saying no when something doesn't feel right to you

It's tough to say no. Saying no is putting your foot down and the people pleaser in us can sometimes be terrified to do so. However, not everything in life has to be a yes. Just because you said no to a certain event, doesn't make you boring or rude. We don't have to go and do something if it makes us uncomfortable. By saying no more often when you know you won't thrive or feel content in a situation, you'll get better at knowing which events are for you and which aren't.

Surrounding yourself with people who reciprocate your energy

I'm slowly getting better at this as it can be so hard to step away from long-term friendships and prioritise yourself, especially if you're the one putting in all the effort. However, by realising which people reciprocate similar energy, you will find each interaction more fulfilling and meaningful and will stop second guessing if you're good enough and if someone wants to be around you. Nobody is ever too busy, it's all about prioritising. Figure out who is prioritising you or caring enough to give you their energy. 

Booking in days/evenings for yourself and hobbies

Protecting your energy isn't only about how you are around others and relationships, it's also about the relationship you have with yourself and how you care for that. With that in mind, book yourself days and evenings when it's all about you. This could be to do a hobby, have a self-care evening or watch your favourite TV show. Dedicating time and making that intention will help you have more love and respect for yourself and your time.

Setting boundaries when people make you feel small

I hate when others make people feel small or not good enough. If this is happening to you, you don't deserve it. We should spend time with people who big us up and care for our emotions and livelihoods, not those who make fun and squash our dreams. If you have those people in your life, learn how to set boundaries or limit time with them. For instance, if you still want a relationship with them, limit how often you see them or communicate. 

Making plans you're excited about 

Again, protecting your energy isn't about everything you're stopping and taking out of your life, it's also what you replace and add into your life. Make plans you're excited about which make your heart soar. This could be morning walks on the beach, a big holiday, hanging out with your best friend or taking up a new hobby. By having regular plans that make you smile, you'll add more positive energy to each day and overall protect your energy away from negativity. 

I hope you enjoyed this post. How are you protecting your energy?

Thank you for reading <3