Top 10 tips on how to feel more confident

 Well hello to you my reader chums! Confidence is one of those things which comes with age, opportunity, and experience - and is something we all have the ability to pursue. I wouldn't describe myself as a completely confident person, however, I would describe myself as confident in a lot of ways - and that has come with a long journey of working on my self-confidence and body confidence.

Looking back at what I used to be like, makes me realise how far I've come in terms of confidence, however, there are always ways to improve and I'm still on the journey of being the most confident and happiest version of me.

Top 10 tips on how to feel more confident

Whether you're struggling with confidence or are like me and need a little boost in your journey, here are my tips on how to feel more confident.

Stop caring what people think

It's human nature to care what everyone thinks around you; whether that's your family, friends, work colleagues, or strangers online. We all want to be loved, valued, and appreciated for who we are - it's part of being human. However, once you work towards not caring what other people think of you, you will start to lead a more peaceful life.

As much as your friends' opinions of you are important, what is most important is how you view and value yourself - it's only then that you can start to feel confident, and be the best version of yourself. You're amazing just being you and the world deserves to see that - and you shouldn't let unnecessary hateful/jealous comments stop you from anything, whether it's a career opportunity or simply wearing a certain outfit.

The best weight you can lose is the weight of other people's opinions on you. Once you dismiss those thoughts, you'll not only begin to see the confidence grow within you, you'll also find a lot more headspace to focus on yourself and your goals.

Congratulate your achievements

A big step in feeling more confident is realising the things you have accomplished and celebrating that. We all have many things that are worth celebrating and actually taking the time to say 'well done' to yourself will boost your confidence in many different areas of your life.

These little boosts will eventually turn into a positive mindset that you are capable of achieving and working towards your goals - and do wonders for your overall confidence.

Be your own hype girl

Congratulating achievements go hand in hand with being your own hype girl. Although you may have an incredible network around you, it's so important to hype yourself up and talk to yourself like you would your best pal.

With positive reinforcements and daily affirmations, the lovely words you say to yourself will start to stick and give you the stepping stone in building confidence within yourself, in terms of self, body and how you present yourself in social settings.

Surround yourself with positive energy 

As much as it's the most important thing to be your own hype girl and boost yourself up, having positive energy around you goes hand in hand with that to support what you're working towards in terms of confidence, and leading a happier life in general.

The people we have around us make a huge impact on how we see ourselves as often they're the ones to compliment or comment on what we wear, what we're doing with our lives, and the one we go to for advice. This is why it's so important to pick the right people to surround yourself with who will not only support you but be honest and boost you up when you need it. Positive people will help you view yourself and life in a better life, and feed into your confidence.

Listen/read empowering stories of others 

I have many people I look up to, whether they're people in my real life, celebrities I've followed for a long time or others online. I'm inspired by them because of their empowering stories, how they've overcome certain obstacles and have become strong and powerful individuals.

By reading these sorts of stories and engaging in this type of confidence will give you hope and something to aspire to - and it's something that has personally helped my confidence. When I see people reach where I want to be in life, it pushes me to work on my confidence more.

Do it anyway

What I mean by this is, anything you're having doubts about, whether it's a meeting, applying for a job, booking that trip, or wearing that outfit, simply, do it anyway. Try to focus on what the most confident version of yourself would do and channel that energy when you're having doubts about a certain tasks. I can assure you it will give you the confidence to do it - and really, what's the worst that can happen? You'll never know until you try.

Accept that it's okay to have bumps in the road

Sometimes in life, we often feel like we've taken three steps forward and then four back and it can really knock out confidence. However, when it comes to feeling more confident in general, it's important to understand that in life, there will be so many knockbacks but it's how you get up from it that's important.

Feeling confident is a similar process to feeling positive as it's all about a change in mindset, and sometimes, negative comments can be said or you've had a bad day and that's okay. You will feel better again soon and come back from this.

Learn to become the love of your own life

I talk about self-love a lot on my blog and why it's so important to be the love of your own life. Self-love intertwines with confidence in so many ways as when you love yourself, the confidence will come along naturally and you'll notice it starting to grow.

There are so many ways to learn to love yourself but it begins with accepting who you are, surrounding yourself with positive energy, and living your life for you and what makes you happy. 

Put yourself out there socially

It all depends on where you're lacking in confidence but being more social can help it in many ways, including obviously, being more socially confident. By putting yourself out there socially, whether that's talking to new people or interacting more with your usual friends, it can give you that boost of confidence around more people - and also give you the buzz to want to keep going out more and more.

I used to be a complete recluse when it came to socialising due to my anxiety but over time and putting myself out there more, I've become a lot more confident in new social situations and in myself more - as now I know I have the confidence to do it.

Be your authentic self wherever you go

We all feel our most confident and at our happiest when we're being our authentic self as that's how we identify. This is why it's always so important to be yourself wherever you go, as that way, you don't have to overthink about being a 'certain' person or worrying what others think of you, like the ones that like you for you are the people you should stick with. And, you shouldn't be wasting your energy on people who don't appreciate your authentic self.

Be beautiful and wonderful you in every area in your life, and you'll find the confidence will begin to build and your mindset will start to change too - for a more positive outlook on life.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What other tips do you have for feeling more confident?

Thank you for reading <3

89 comments

  1. These tips are great. I apply some of them sometimes when I feel low. Sometimes I find them harder to apply. I will keep them in mind. Thank you for sharing.

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  2. I used to care sooo much about what other people think. It was torture. I grew out of it when I grew out of a particular group of friends in my early twenties and I've never ever felt better. It was like an instant wake up, all of a sudden, I could be wholeheartedly myself. It's an amazing feeling!

    Rosie

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    1. I hear you!! I'm so glad you're feeling better now xx

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  3. Aw I love these tips to being more confident. I think sometimes we need to remember to look after ourselves and realise that it's okay to be selfish- and be the love of our own lives! Thank you for this reminder x

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  4. Empowering blog post. It's a good reminder to be happy with who we are and to not be discouraged by our limitations. Thanks for stopping by my blog. Jay

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  5. Yes to this post! Reading along being all like yes yes yes to all of this. When I was in my 20s I used to be so hung up on what people thoughts of me ect but now not so much. I still have moments where I self doubt things or over analysis things but generally I'm not too bothered. Fabulous read! x

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  6. I really needed to read this! I am all for these posts and your tips. I am currently working on stop caring about others opinion, it's still a long journey but it can be so liberating!Put yourself first and be your hype girl are great reminders, thank you for sharing xx

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    1. Thank you so much, I'm glad it helped in some way! You've got this xx

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  7. These are fab tips Della! While I do agree that it is human nature to care about what everyone around thinks of you. I feel like it's best to not pay attention to what people think about you as no matter how nice you are, there will still be people that wouldn't like you. Focusing on people's opinion of you will only make you feel like you are not enough meanwhile reverse is the case. The only thing that should matter is your opinion of yourself and what you think about you. Lovely post xx

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  8. I love this. It's so easy to feel knocked down when you hit a bump in the road but I don't think that we ever grow until we accept not everything is smooth. Learning not to compare is so so so hard but so important at the same time X

    Sophie
    www.glowsteady.co.uk

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  9. Confidence is something I'm working on a lot lately. I've definitely seen some growth but there's always more I can do! Doing it anyway is easier said than done but sometimes jumping into the deep end is EXACTLY what we need to do! x

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  10. I love these ways of becoming more confident in our lives! It's so important to surround yourself with positive energy! x

    Lucy | www.lucymary.co.uk

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  11. While I love your range of tips for becoming holistically and authentically and healthily YOU, I connect so much with your thoughts on listening and reading about the empowering journeys of others. It is definitely one way to surround myself with positive people who keep making it over the bumps in their roads.
    Thanks so much for sharing!

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  12. I'm really trying to work on alot of aspects I this post so it has really resonated with me thanks for the tips. I especially like be your own hype girl and thinking what would my confident self do!!

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    1. I'm glad this helped in some way, you've got this. Thank you!

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  13. Not caring what people think is a constant battle for me. I find it so hard and get so upset when I receive sharp comments rather than objective feedback. I wish I could let go.

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  14. I've found that since celebrating all my achievements my confidence has increased so much, I could do with following these other tips though. Loved reading this.

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  15. I love how real and honest this post is. I used to be so worried by what other people thought and always wanted to make people like me which is not realistic.I definitely think confidence comes with age. You just get to a point where you don't sweat the small things anymore.

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  16. UGH DELLA!! I love reading your blog posts and seeing your photos on socials! You are a literal bundle of light and joy! I enjoyed reading this so much. I stand by the "do it anyway" tip so much Lol! Thank you for sharing gorgeous xx

    Lynn | www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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    1. Aww thank you so much, that comment means a lot to me!! xx

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  17. Loved this! I often struggle with confidence and doing things anyway is definitely something I'm working on. Thanks for sharing such a fab list!

    Tash - A Girl with a View

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  18. Love these so much! Learning to be your own cheerleader is so hard, but I can imagine when you've cracked it, it's amazing!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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  19. Putting myself out there socially is something I really struggle with but I always feel better when I’ve pushed myself!

    Corinne x
    Https://skinnedcartree.com

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  20. Yes!! I love these so much! The wall next to my desk is filled with pictures of all the people I love as well as some of my best achievements and empowerment quotes!

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  21. The great Bob Marley sang: Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our mind" Our minds can be our lifetime prison. As you said, stop caring about what others think and be your authentic self. Great blog Della.

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  22. These are such important tips! I am not a confident person, but I am starting to not care about what others say about me. I know who I am, I know I'm a boss girl and I love that I'm starting to see myself in a more positive light. Thank you for sharing

    Em x

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  23. Great tips! I definitely think confidence is something that comes with age and experience because I've definitely seen myself grow in confidence over the years.

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  24. Your posts are always a wonderfully refreshing stream of positivity! I completely agree it's so vital to feel appreciation and love for yourself, and to try and turn off other people's opinions of you

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  25. I never felt more confident than when I started surrounding myself in more positive energy! Great post girl, thank you for sharing xx

    xoxo Olivia | http://www.oliviaandbeauty.com

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  26. I love the positivity in this post! You’ve really provided such great suggestions. Thank you for sharing.

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  27. These are great tips - it's so important to remain positive and try not to compare yourself to other people! Thanks for sharing!

    Serena / http://www.ramblingsofanotherunigraduate.com

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  28. I appreciate this post coming forward when it did! As spring is upon us my mood is overall improving from the dark nights of winter. However, there's still some days as we all know we struggle to give ourselves grace and kindness through the ups and downs of life. I enjoyed every word and thank you for sharing!

    Gigi Lee | https://www.guidancebygigi.com

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  29. These tips are so great! I've been trying to work on my own self confidence recently, and I've found doing some of these things to be so helpful. Especially being your own authentic self - it's so key! Thanks so much for sharing!

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  30. Lots of good advice here and a great post all round. Totally agree with things like accepting bumps in the road and my confidence has grown with age, but I still struggle with putting myself out there socially.

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  31. Thinking about what others says the way to destroy ourselves. Great tips! Thank you for sharing!

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  32. I think it was Richard Branson that said if you don't know how to do something when you're offered an opportunity, say yes, then figure out how to do it afterwards. That takes quite a lot of self-confidence, I think, but I agree with him. These are some great tips, Della, thank you for curating them x

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  33. Thanks for sharing, your tips they are so important to make us feel better about ourselfs esp. after the year we have been through, my self confidence has taken a nock this last few months, I do hope to get it back somehow :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

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  34. I am the opposite of my own hype girl. I have a real self-deprecating sense of humour as a defence mechanism but it needs to stop. I am in my bloody prime, I should love myself!

    Rosie

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  35. Great set of tips! I really gotta get better at being kind to myself - been working on it over the last few months xx I love the just do it tip too - trying real hard to do that x

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  36. These are all such great tips! Thanks so much for sharing them! So important to feel confident!

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  37. Love these tips about feeling more confident about yourself! YES on being your own hype girl. If you don't do it, who else will? So important to be there for yourself and surround yourself with the energy you want to cultivate. Thanks for sharing!

    Nancy ✨ mdrnminimalists.com

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  38. As a black man who endured a childhood of racism and neglect, it's extremely hard not to care about what others think and to be your authentic self. I'm acutely aware that my presence alone in a white space can affect those around, you have to give up being authentic to be allowed to coexist

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    1. Thank you for being brave and sharing this, I hope you can find it in yourself to know that you deserve happiness and confidence x

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  39. Great points. I especially like the one about doing it anyway. There's this book called feel the fear and do it anyway, which goes into this in detail. Reflecting on moments when you did it anyway can greatly increase confidence!

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  40. I love this post! I've only recently started not caring what people think about me, it's so freeing :) xx

    Holly | www.gollymissholly.uk

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  41. Surrounding yourself with positive energy is so important! I feel like a different person when I have positive people!

    Love, Amie ❤
    The Curvaceous Vegan

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  42. These are all some wonderful tips which are perfect for me as i'm not as confident as id like. Positive vibes and reading help me.

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  43. Love the do it anyway point. One of my favorite quotes to live by is, "feel the fear and do it anyways."

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  44. Such great tips! Especially accepting bumps in the road is my biggest thing to overcome to be honest. Slow but steady growth is fine by me, but feeling like there’s this huge thing holding me back is difficult to deal with. I’ll learn though. Thanks for sharing!

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  45. These are really great tips. Thank you for sharing this amazing post.

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