Well hello to you my reader chums! Love is a wonderful and magical thing and something we all deserve to experience in our lives. I've been lucky to enter a new relationship this year and it has made me realise a lot of things not only about love as a whole but the importance of self-love and why we should never stop working on ourselves.

Self-love is the core of everything we do and a journey that never really stops. We're constantly evolving and growing and that's why the love for ourselves needs to be something to constantly work at. If you've been single for a long time or are looking to get into a relationship, here is my advice on how falling in love with yourself can help you find love.

Just a little disclaimer on this topic, this advice post is all from my own personal experience and what I've witnessed by working on my self-love journey, learning more about the law of attraction and manifestation as a whole.

You'll realise your worth and what you deserve

Self-love is something I can talk about all day long because we all deserve to accept and fall in love with who we are. As cliché as it sounds, we're all unique and for a reason, to be that individual person we were born to be. Not everyone is going to like you and you're not going to like everyone, but someone you should always like is yourself. You're the only person that is with you your entire life and that's why the love begins with you.

Falling in love with yourself isn't a luxury, it's a life skill and to be honest, can be a hard graft, but it's worth it in the long run for a few reasons. Once you love yourself, you'll realise your worth and what you deserve. This means, you learn to say no to things that do not serve you or bring you happiness, whether that's friendships or relationships and know that you can and do deserve better. You deserve someone to give you their full attention, care and love. And, it's only when you fall in love with every part of yourself, that this idea becomes vividly clear.

You'll understand that your standards were never too high

How many times have you heard 'your standards are way too high' or 'you're never going to find someone thinking like that'? These statements are incorrect for so many reasons. If you set high standards for yourself and your life, you want to be attracting someone with the same energy and on a higher frequency of life, and trust me they are out there. They're harder to find because falling for mediocre relationships any of us can do. However, falling in love with yourself will put you in that higher frequency to find a better partnership, one that'll give you the same efforts you're willing to put in.

Self-love is hard work and finding love is hard work because you have to put in the mental work to understand you deserve this high standard you've set for yourself and love that'll make you feel on top of the world every day. You attract the energy you put out into the world, so if you're full of love and positivity, it'll come back around to you.

You'll realise what you want in a relationship and start searching for it

That leads me to this point. The standards you've set in your head will be a list of everything you expect to have in a relationship - and you can never ask for too much because if you look for it hard enough, you'll find it. The love for yourself links into this idea of not only realising what you want in a relationship but realising you deserve it. Being in a bubble of self-love, opens up new opportunities for love all around us, including in relationships. You'll find yourself more open to searching for the right kind of love, rather than validation or hit and miss vibes from people.

You'll understand that a relationship is there to complement your life

This is a big thing I think everyone needs to learn and I definitely believe when you're on a journey of self-love, the idea becomes more apparent. Relationships aren't there to be your whole life or fill up your love tank fully. They're a part of your life to compliment the love you feel for yourself and boost it up as and when you need it, and allow you to fall for someone that makes everything feel okay and right about the world.

Falling in love with yourself puts you on a wavelength to be fully independent and know you can stand on your own feet, you don't need to rely on anyone else. And, a good relationship will complement that idea because you know you can rely on them but also, you can hold your own.

You will focus on your own goals and dreams

We all have goals and dreams and we all deserve to experience them fully. Self-love helps you focus on what you want out of life and helps you understand that it's not selfish to focus on everything you want to be. This links in to the idea of finding love because by being in the energy of wishing for good things, and manifesting them, you can navigate your way to your dream partner.

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