Why you should celebrate being single

 Well hello to you my reader chums! Growing up, being single was always viewed as a bad thing. I can always remember the sneers like 'why don't have a boyfriend?', 'don't worry your time will come' or 'we'll find you someone' and it used to really grind at me. If you didn't have a significant other, you were almost deemed as less, and that view has continued as I've gone into my twenties.

I've been single, I've been in a relationship, I've been in talking phases, that's life. But right now, I'm single and the happiest I've ever been, and to be honest, I wish I was told growing up how freeing and empowering being single is - and that you don't need someone to complete you. You're fully complete on your own and there is nothing wrong with you, whether you're choosing to be single or are unable to find someone. Being single deserves to be celebrated the same way being in a relationship does.

The stigma around being single is always viewed as 'lonely' or 'sad' when really, it should be the complete opposite. Nobody tells someone in a relationship that it's sad they have a partner so why do they say it when someone is single with pity eyes?

Why you should celebrate being single

Whether you've been single your whole life or recently single, here are the reasons to celebrate being single. 

You can live your life completely for you

This is no shade on relationships in any sense, however, when you're single, your life is fully yours. You don't need to think about talking to someone about what you're doing that evening or if you want to make a wild lifestyle change, you can just do it. You're your own unit and every decision you make can be down to you. You can experience everything you wanna do, you can revel in your passions and above all, you can take complete ownership of your life. Every choice is yours and there's less of a reason to compromise on what you truly want.

It's the perfect time to grow on your self-love journey

Self-love is the most important thing as you deserve to be loved by yourself. You deserve to see how truly incredible you are as a human and how you deserve great things in life. I preach about self-love all the time because I believe it's the secret to living your best life and not caring about other's opinions of you. When you're single, it's the perfect time to practice self-love and really fall in love with who you are. When you're with someone, I feel like sometimes self-love can sway as you already have the validity of their love that you forget to love yourself as much as you should. 

Express your love for yourself, talk to yourself like your best friend, accept you're not always going to be okay, and live your best life for you.

You can figure out what you truly want in life

When you don't have a life partner, your focus in life can be mainly on you and your goals. You'll have more time to be with your thoughts and be alone, that what you want to do in life can become a lot clearer sooner.

You're fully independent

Independence is gold and I'm not saying in a relationship you can't be independent, but when you're with someone, you do rely on them for certain things. However, when you're single, you're fully independent. All the decisions you make are down to you. Whether you want to quit your job and move abroad or simply go on a late-night ice cream run, you have the freedom to make whatever choice you would like.

It teaches you how to be alone

Being alone is an important skill we all need to learn. You're not always going to have someone by your side to boost you up, support you or offer advice and that's completely normal. But, because of this, you need to learn to be alone and be okay with that. When you're single, you have the opportunity to be alone, more so than when you're in a relationship. By being on your own, you can figure out the things you like to do alone, how to make yourself happy or cheer yourself up and what to do when you're feeling sad. It'll give you time to be with your thoughts and figure out who you are even more.

You may never get this time again

Being single is a wonderful thing and something to embrace rather than worry about when you'll find someone. Don't get me wrong, being in a relationship is just as wonderful as there is no better feeling than being in love, but, you will never get the same single freedoms again. Learn to love all that alone time, embrace the free time you have to work on yourself and your career, and take advantage of every opportunity that is thrown your way. You may never get the chance to be single again.

You can build more connections

When you're single, it means you're more likely to meet more single people, and that means building more connections and friendships. Not everyone but many people are more social when they're single and this gives you the opportunity to meet like-minded people.

You're wild and free

This way sounds a bit over the top as relationships don't take away your freedom but it's a different kind of freedom when you're single. You can be as wild as you like, you can be as free as you're like and nobody can question it. I believe you should live with this free-thinking way of life no matter your circumstance, but especially when you're single.

You're amazing on your own

Being single teaches you how strong and powerful you are just by being who you are. You don't need a significant other to make you happy or fulfill your life, you can do that all by yourself. You are brave, you are smart and you are important. You shouldn't be made to feel inadequate because of your relationship status and you don't need to prove who are you are to anyone. Being single is important to find yourself, love yourself, and ensure you know your self-worth. I believe everyone needs to be single at some point in their life to figure out and learn that they deserve the very best.

Because being single isn't the worst thing in the world

For my last point, I had to talk about this. The stigma around being single is so negative that it's important for us who are single to realise how it's not the worst thing in the world, in fact, it deserves to be celebrated. Being single is wonderful just like being in a relationship. If you're single and worried about the pressure to find someone, remember this:

  • You're incredible and fully complete on your own
  • You don't need someone to make you happy - you can do that yourself
  • You deserve the world and more
  • The grass isn't always greener on the other side
  • You are worthy and good enough just as you are
  • If you want a relationship, your time will come when it's right. Enjoy what you have now
  • Being single is a positive and celebrated thing
  • You're more than your relationship status
I hope you enjoyed this post. What other reasons do you think?

Thank you for reading <3

56 comments

  1. I love this! I’m in a relationship now, but I did also enjoy some time to reflect on myself and what I wanted- and I think that’s helped me know what I want in a relationship too :) thank you for sharing!

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  2. A huge YES to this! I think it's a great time where I learnt so much about myself. You don't always need someone else to feel complete as you said, and getting to live by yourself. You can change at your hearts content x

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  3. Having that time to yourself to get to know yourself better and figure out what you want is very valuable. I'm in a long term relationship and have been for almost 10 years but before that I had a while to find out what I wanted first and I still take time away for me as does my other half. Very much agree, being single is definitely not the worst thing in the world!

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  4. This is a great post. Although I'm in a happy long term relationship now, one of my regrets is not taking time to be single in my late teens and early 20's. I was always hopping from one boyfriend to another. The longest I was single from 13 until now was around 6 months. I'm so glad you're loving being single - I think if I was to become single again, I'm use the time to travel!

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  5. Yes!!!, I do relate to this because being single isn't bad at all, it forms all dependency on yourself and I do relate because I am in country that supports and tell women to put all her dependence on a man which really bothering but from experience of a girl being single and in a relationship, this article is very true!

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  6. Oh Della, this post seems to be made for me. I just ended a three year relationship and especially the first phase is so tough.
    Thanks for this motivating post!
    have a great day,
    Tiziana

    www.tizianaolbrich.de

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    1. I'm so happy that you liked the post and it helped you!

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  7. This is such an awesome post Della - I really love the point about enjoying your time alone as this might be the only time you have like this!Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Loved reading this! I relate to this post so much, especially about the self love journey. Great post! xx
    TheQuietGirl | www.quietgirlblog.com

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  9. Great post! I spent most of my 20's being single! It was great, I had a lot fun doing what I want and I felt ready to settle down and commit when I was in my 30's.

    Corinne x
    www.skinnedcartree.com

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  10. So much yes in one post, Della! I'm in a relationship now, but I LOVED being single. All my time was my own and it was such a fun time. I love being in a relationship too for different reasons, but being single is definitely not less than! xx

    mia // https://beautiful-inspiring-creative-life.com/

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  11. Being single is one of the best feelings I believe. Wonderful Post! Have a great day!
    Rampdiary | Fineartandyou | Beautyandfashionfreaks 

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  12. I love this. I'm in a relationship, and have been for the last 10+ years, but I felt myself nodding along with everything you've said here. Being single shouldn't really be looked down upon or pitied. If anything I think it's empowering! Go you for opening up the conversation.

    Claire.x
    www.clairemac.co.uk

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  13. Yess to this. Before I met my fiance, I LOVED being single. I learnt so much about myself, I enjoyed the freedom and I learned to love who I am. I was 100% happy on my own and felt excited for a future. We bumped into each other and he was very much in the same headspace. It all fell into place. The independence and confidence I'd gained from being single was a huge positive for the start of our relationship!
    Rosie

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    1. Thank you so much, I'm so glad to hear this!!

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  14. I absolutely love this post! I'm single at the moment and I've started to really love it. The freedom to do what I want, when I want. The time to focus on self-care and really think about what I want from the future (and from a relationship, when I'm ready and meet someone amazing!) I've also found that it pushes me to learn new skills - there's no one here to put up blinds or fix things around my apartment, so I just Google how to do it myself and end up feeling accomplished and independent. Thanks for sharing such a positive and empowering take on being single! xx

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    1. Than you so much lovely, I'm so happy to hear that!

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  15. Thanks for sharing, being single does have some plus points and bad points as you get older, as you seem to have less of your friendship group around you, which I have found over the years, esp. with what has happened with Covid, I'm glad your happy at the moment :)

    Nic | Nic's Adventures & Bakes

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  16. Yes!
    I had so much fun when I was single just kind of dating myself and finding myself again. It can be so easy to define yourself within a relationship that when you're not in one you can feel lost.
    Cora | https://www.teapartyprincess.co.uk/

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  17. I might have been with my husband for 18 years and married for almost 12, but before that I was single for several periods - including alone in a foreign country. During those times, I learned to be self sufficient, happy in my own skin and confident that I don't need someone else. I choose to be with my husband but I know I could be alone otherwise.

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  18. Back in high school I felt that something was wrong with me because I have never had a boyfriend before. When I turned 19 I got into a relationship that lasted like a year and ended. After that point I felt so amazing being single! After a year of that, I found my soulmate so I've been in a relationship since then, but being single can be super empowering if you learn to love yourself and how to be alone, as you said. I'm so glad you're enjoying being single and thank you for sharing, I'm sure there are a lot of girls and guys who needed to hear your words!

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experience and your lovely comment!

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  19. Aw, this is such a great post! I do admit though, I've never really been single! I'm lucky that my husband is amazing and lets me do what I want. I do envy those who can solely do things for themselves because I feel like I', always thinking of others when making decisions! Thanks for sharing x

    Lynn | https://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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  20. This has such a great message behind it. I feel like everyones always is such a rush to find a new relationship and never actually take the time for themselves to figure out who they are alone, what they want etc.

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  21. It's so true that you have more time for your own interests when you're single. This is such an uplifting post and message! Thank you for this!

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  22. Nothing wrong being single. I agree with you, people should live happy being single and live for their selves.

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  24. I seriously needed to read this today! I've been in the online dating sphere since the start of the year and it has been a major trial, but I have to agree with so much in this post. The self-discovery has been the biggest, as I've really learned what I truly want in a relationship and have been able to turn down some of the unrealistic expectations I've had about dating. I've only dated one person in my life and that was ten years ago, but at 25 its so hard being single when everyone you know is in a relationship. It has helped me work on myself in the terms of maturing more and really having time to chase my dreams. Definitely a post every single person needs in these times! Great job!

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  25. Some of my best times were my single days -- I really got to figure out who I was and what I wanted out of life. And it was great to learn that I can survive on my own. Fab post -- thank you for sharing this!

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  26. Loved reading this! I totally agree that there is nothing wrong being in single. I am single and I am loving this phase of my life where I can cherish the freedom. Know myself more and figure out what I want instead of running behind relationships. Thanks for sharing xx

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  27. Loved this post and really need it right now after recently coming out of a relationship. It's so hard to adjust to being single but hopefully it will be a time for growth and it will all work out in the end!

    Tash - A Girl with a View

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    1. Thank you so much! I hope you're okay lovely, I know how hard it is coming out of a relationship xx

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  28. Hello! I love this post and I totally agree it's important to be single at some point in our lives and it's not a bad thing to be single! Thanks for sharing a great post! Alicia

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  29. This is an great inspiring post. I have been single for a while now. I have need to learnt that I am perfectly fine on my own and that my time will come. Thank you for sharing.

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  30. Really lovely post! I've been in a relationship for almost 8 years and married for just over 2....before that, I'd not been in a relationship for longer than a year. For the most part, I spent my time on dating websites or trying to find what I thought I was looking for rather than just embracing it! The time to move on and find someone was always going to come, but I tortured myself with the idea that I'd stay single forever.

    You really do seem like you're living your best life :)

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