Well hello to you my reader chums! One lie we're often told, especially as women is we have to achieve everything before the age of 30. We must find the love of our life, get married, have kids, buy a home and have our dream career. We're meant to smash life in our first decade of adulthood - and to this day, we all believe the lie, and we all try to live up to these unlikely expectations. How can we achieve all of life's successes in one decade as well as learn to be our true selves and live wild and free lives? IT'S IMPOSSIBLE.

If you're in your twenties and feeling the pressure, here is my guide to the beauty of ageing and how you don't need to achieve everything in your twenties. 

These are some reminders to hear today:

Ageing is a beautiful thing

The number of people my age or younger always dread the idea of turning 30 and getting a year older but as I grow, I realise what a blessing that is. How lucky we are to age and become wiser, stronger, more successful and make incredible memories. Ageing means experiencing more love, connection, the joy of life and achievement. It's everything; your skin shows years of laughter and experience and encapsulates what your existence is all about.

You're never too old to achieve a certain goal

I'm so tired of the 'twenties pressure' and being told I need to do it all and have it all or I'm not successful. It's the biggest lie I've ever been told. You are never too old to achieve a certain goal. You can find love in your 50s, you can go backpacking in your 60s, you can have your dream job in your 40s, you can learn a new life skill in your 70s. Life doesn't stop when you reach 30.

Your twenties are incredibly young

I'm 28 now and the closer I get to 30, the more I realise how young I am. When I look back over the last decade, how my twenties are so young. It's the first decade of adulthood - how am I meant to have it all figured out? How can I learn all the life lessons and achieve everything when I've had no proper life experience?

Life doesn't stop at 30

Absolutely not. Repeat this a thousand times, please. The minute you turn 30 and your 'wild and fun' years of your twenties finish, it doesn't mean your life is over. You have so much more to live and do - a whole lifetime to experience.

It's a blessing to see a new decade 

Ageing is the biggest blessing. Many people die young, way too young, whether through illness or tragedy. Sometimes, we should remind ourselves of the blessing it is to age and experience all the things we'd like to do in life.

You don't have to achieve the normal society expectations to live a fulfilling life

The normal expectations we're told to be happy include getting married, buying a house, having kids and living the perfect nuclear family life. But that dynamic doesn't work for everyone and that's okay. You don't need to aspire to the 'normal societal expectations', you need to create a life for yourself. This could be travelling full time, living in a remote cottage in the countryside or a stable job with little moments of joy each day. 

You get more beautiful every single year

We constantly compare ourselves to our younger selves, especially in terms of our looks. But this is just a reminder - you get more beautiful with age. Your face is full of wisdom, stories and your life journey.

You can always start over, whatever your age

Sometimes life doesn't go to plan and it can feel like the world is over, especially when we're young, in our twenties. When things break, we can fix them. When things don't go to plan, we can start again. Whether it's a job, relationship or healing from a difficult situation, you can do this.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What's the biggest life lesson you've learned?

Thank you for reading <3