How to deal with a breakup

Well hello to you my reader chums! Going through a breakup is never easy and something I've had to experience lately. When it first happened, I wasn't sure how to feel, what to do, and genuinely, how to cope with it. If you're in a similar boat to me and recently gone through her breakup, here are some tips on how to deal with a breakup - and what I've done to get through it.

How to deal with a breakup

Allow yourself to feel all the emotions

When I first broke up with my ex, I felt a lot of pressure to get over and move on with my life quickly but that's not how it works, nor is there any expectation to do so. There is a process you'll go through when you break up with someone and it's important to feel all the emotions. 

If you feel sad, let yourself cry and be sad, it's okay. If you feel angry, channel that anger and allow yourself that. If you feel happy one day, celebrate that but don't beat yourself up if the next day you feel sad again. Your emotions will come in waves and it's okay to deal with that. Breaking up with someone is similar to a grieving process as they were a huge part of your life for a significant period of time and suddenly, that's taken away, and the attachment which comes with that. Feel everything and do what you have to do to ensure you're going through the emotions. Hang with friends, cry at sad films, write everything down on a piece of paper, and rip it up. Simply, let all your emotions out.

Be reassured that everyone's healing process is different

Everyone has a different relationship with their ex and a reason they broke up, which can be different from what you went through - and that's so important. Each and every breakup is different, and each and every healing process is different - and you shouldn't compare yours. There is no certain time that you should take to get over your ex, it could take weeks, it could take months or years, and that's okay. You're allowed to take the time to process what happened and heal.

Healing isn't linear

Something I've learned dealing with a breakup and my mental health journey in general is that healing isn't a linear process. It has it's ups and downs, and sometimes you'll think you're taking two steps back rather than two steps forward. Those step backs are totally normal and there is no reason to beat yourself up if you've had no progress. Time really is the biggest healer and one day, you'll feel like yourself once more  - trust the process.

Surround yourself with your support network

When dealing with a breakup, it's an incredibly hard time and something that helped me through was my family, friends, and work colleagues. Surround yourself with the people who will boost you up, make you smile and reassure you it's all going to be okay. Make fun plans with your friends and try and fill your schedule up with different things to keep your mind occupied.

Try and focus on yourself

Everyone talks about those post-breakup 'glow ups' and to be honest, they are a thing. It's your time to fully focus on yourself, get back into your old hobbies, and do what's right for you. Whether that's making plans with your friends, joining a club, or getting a new hairdo; try and do the things which will make you happy, for being you.

Cut communication with your ex

The breakup could have ended in a good or bad way but something I would recommend in any case is to cut communication from your ex completely. This will help you process the breakup on your own without relying on their validation and also help you move away from them - and stand on your own two feet. It ended for a reason and you need to accept that. Cutting communication will really help you heal easier.

Practice self-love

Self-love is one of the most important things for you, your mental health, and building up your self-confidence again after a breakup. This means doing what makes you happy, taking a day as it comes, and putting no pressure on yourself. Be your own hype gal and surround yourself with positivity.

Know things will get easier

Probably one of the most cliche things to say, but I know that things will get easier for you. It may not seem like it now and your heart feels incredibly broken, but over time, that pain will get lesser and lesser, and you'll be back to beautiful you in no time. Be patient, stay positive, and know things will be okay soon. You've got this.

I hope you enjoyed this post. Do you have any more breakup tips?

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