Well hello to you my reader chums! Comparison is the thief of all joy. I've heard this phrase a million times and preach it often as it's incredibly true. In today's world with the influence of social media, we're constantly comparing ourselves to everyone's highlight reels and their successes, making many feel inadequate and unworthy.

I've struggled with comparison for years and at times, I still struggle with looking at everyone's lives and thinking 'I should be like that'. If you're someone who compares yourself often, here is my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to others.

You're in different life chapters.

One of the BEST reminders which helps me out a lot when I'm overthinking and comparing myself to others is knowing you're in different life chapters. You may be comparing your chapter 1 to someone's chapter 5, whether that's your career, saving journey, travelling or buying a home. 

It's also worth noting, you can't be late in your life. We all have different life journeys and experiences, where some people do things younger, some do things older but we all achieve different successes in the time that's right for us. For example, just because your friend is engaged and you're single, it doesn't mean you're behind, it'll happen when the time is right for you. 

Work on your self-love

I have spoken about my self-love journey many times but learning to love myself has helped immensely with comparisons. When you're confident and self-assured, you become less bothered about what other people do with their lives and more focused on your own. 

 Honestly, learning to appreciate and love your life and be more grateful for what you have can help you avoid comparison. Why would you compare to someone's success when you're so content in your life?

Step away from social media as much as you can

I love social media, however, it can have many negative implications, such as comparing yourself to others. If you find that's your biggest trigger, start to limit yourself to social media usage, whether that's setting physical limitations on your phone or having phone-free evenings. I'd especially recommend avoiding your phones in moments you're feeling down or insecure.

Understand we're all in the same boat

Just because someone has bought a house on social media or is smiling on a holiday, it doesn't mean they lead a happy life or don't compare themselves to everyone else. Everyone has down days, hard moments or life-altering news which can affect their lives. The sooner you understand that concept, the easier it can be to avoid comparison.

Nobody lives a perfect life

Nobody is perfect. Nobody has a perfect life. The best way to avoid comparison is to understand nobody is as perfect as you think they are.

I hope you enjoyed this post. What advice would you add?

Thank you for reading <3